1. I've noticed that a lot of times when I'm talking to someone on the phone, we talk over each other. I think it's me that's the problem. When someone makes a statement and pauses, I step in. Nine times out of ten they're not finished -- maybe talking a breath or thinking about what to say next?--but I take the silence as a cue to continue the conversation. It doesn't happen with everyone, but it happens consistently with several of my friends.
2. When someone talks to me about a situation where I see both sides clearly, I will often take the opposite view from them, playing devil's advocate. By bringing up the opposite viewpoint, I might come across as unsympathetic or even antagonistic.
3. I am too eager to solve other people's problems. Again, because the answer seems clear to me, I want to give the person advice. The other person doesn't always want my advice. Sometimes, when told that, I will give my advice anyway.
4. I 'pre-worry' much too often. What-if statements come up in my conversations at least once or twice a day.
I think being more conscious of my behavior will help me quit doing these things. Or quit doing them so often.
At sixty-one years old, I thought I'd have it all figured out by now. Shoot, I'm just beginning to be aware. I've got a ways to go before it's all figured out! I'm going to be gentle with myself.
(We are working on our panel discussion about guns, mental health issues and the media...stay tuned!)